Divorce is never easy for any New Jersey resident, but it’s a whole other ballgame if your spouse is a narcissist. You should prepare yourself for a battle as they will aim to “win” at any cost. Although it can be challenging, these tips can help.
Acknowledge that things won’t be amicable
Many couples try to ensure that their divorce is as amicable as possible. Unfortunately, that’s not an option when you’re married to a narcissist. Don’t be amenable to everything they suggest or insist upon during the process. Instead, acknowledge that you have an uphill battle with your split, and forget about negotiating.
Gather a strong support system
Keep friends and family close to you to serve as your strong support system. While divorcing a narcissist, you need it. Ensure that each person is on your side before you go to court to dissolve your marriage. You want to keep them there and prevent your spouse from tricking them into being on their side.
If you have kids, protect them
Divorce is difficult on children to begin with, and it’s even worse when one parent is a narcissist. If you and your spouse have children together, the most important thing you can do during your divorce is to protect them. Also, even though family law usually dictates that children should be able to maintain a relationship with both parents, you’ll want to ensure that your kids aren’t subject to any manipulation tactics or other typical tricks narcissists pull.
Take care of yourself
Throughout the process of your divorce, take care of yourself. You’ll undoubtedly feel emotionally drained due to your spouse’s narcissism, but making sure you eat right, exercise, get quality sleep and do things you enjoy can help. If you need more support than your friends and family can offer, therapy might help.
Divorce is tricky when one party is a narcissist. Keep a level head, and don’t indulge them. Things might get easier.