Telling your kids that you are divorcing in New Jersey

On Behalf of | Dec 21, 2021 | Family Law |

One of the most challenging things that separating parents in New Jersey do is break the news to their kids. You need to prepare, the timing must be right, and your kids should come out of the whole process without it affecting their lives for the worst. If you are divorcing, here’s how to tell your kids about the divorce.

Start by planning what to say

Divorce is sometimes harder on kids than it is on parents. To protect them from anger or hurt, you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse must come together and discuss how you will approach the subject and when. Some of the worst times include family holidays when they are having fun or any other special day like their birthday or graduation.

Approach your kids together

When moving forward with your divorce, you will hear a lot about establishing a co-parenting plan, which is where you work together as parents to provide both physical and emotional needs for your kids. Family law aims to put the child’s best interest above all else by giving them a sense of stability and the support that they need. The same applies when breaking the news to your children. If they can see that you are still working together and minding their needs, they will find it easier to cope.

Don’t give them false hope of getting back together

Don’t make the mistake of promising that you’ll work things out and eventually get back together. Your kids won’t like it when you try to move on with someone else down the road. In addition, they will also take more time to accept reality and move on with their lives.

Invite questions

Your kids will be curious about what might change or affect them when you are divorcing, so you must remain open to questions and address their concerns truthfully and honestly. You should also be aware of things that you cannot talk about or inappropriate topics that are not their business.

Divorce in New Jersey is not easy for anyone. However, with the right approach, you can make it bearable and successful. Sometimes, people thrive more when divorced compared to when they were married, and they have more to offer when raising their kids in a healthy environment.